Sikhism and pre marital sex. The guilt you are feeling is there for a reason, it's meant to feel uncomfortable.
I know this sounds new-agey, but it's absolutely true.
You say you read the Nitnem Bani's.
Guru ang sang, -DKK If you are looking for specific quotes, then you may find some answers in the following link:
Gender Roles Sikhism was founded on principles of equality for all people.
The mind-body link is well established, as the chemicals released in such an act create a close bond between the 2 people, much like when oxytocin is released when a mother breast feeds her child.
Marriage Marriage is seen as something sacred between a husband and wife, and everyone in the community is expected to marry at some point in their lives.
Of course not, the mind is extremely affected by the energies associated with pre marital affairs.
This is your journey, let's hope you learn from these experiences and make your future a positive one from now on.
As a result, both sex before and outside of marriage are forbidden, because sex is strictly for creating a family.
Marriage is closely tied with family honour.